TALKING THE WALK AND WALKING THE TALK (PART 2)In my last post I discussed the idea that a good therapist has two jobs: first, to create a functional, connected relationship, and...
TALKING THE WALK AND WALKING THE TALK (PART 1)Talk therapy is talk. When people complain it’s “just” talk, they mean if therapy doesn’t lead to some kind of change then therapy is...
Stuck-nessWhen I ask people what’s made them seek therapy, by far the most common answer is “I’m stuck.” Few people come when their problems start;...
THE EMPTY SELF AND THE “AS-IF PERSONALITY”A long time ago there existed another diagnosis crudely named the “As-If Personality.” The “As-if” Personality, now folded into the...
Self-Validation: Accepting your EmotionsI’ve worked with many individuals who in different ways and for different reasons, did not like their feelings and would constantly...
Emotional NeglectPrior to starting my private practice, I worked for an agency serving homeless teenagers (and, to a lesser extent, helping young adults...
Mass shootings, "Mental Illness", and AngerMy friend Paul lives in Las Vegas, he and his wife both teach psychology at the University of Nevada. In the last few years I’ve gone out...